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Myth of You & Me ? 3

March 20, 2007

On page 51, Cameron says, “To belong nowhere is a blessing and a curse, like any kind of freedom.” What do you make of this? How have her frequent moves shaped her? How have they affected her worldview? How might she be different if she’d lived her entire life in one place?

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  1. March 20, 2007 10:51 am

    Being a bit of nomad is wonderful in the sense of constantly discovering new places and things but I think that not having roots also leads to a certain loneliness and perhaps not having as much confidence in one’s self.

  2. March 20, 2007 3:17 pm

    To belong nowhere is a blessing and a curse because any time Cameron feels like a change, she can just pack up and go with little trouble. On the other hand, if she actually stops to think about it, I can imagine how lonely it must seem to realize you have no “home” to go back to. Cameron may never have left Sonia at the gas station if she had lived in one place her entire life. I think the frequent moving caused Cameron to look at problems in terms of location. If she has a problem somewhere, all she has to do is move to a different location, and, technically, the problem is gone. Cameron’s past stopped her from looking at her own life and seeing the problems and trying to fix them; it allowed her to avoid confrontation and any soul-searching she may have needed to do in order to fix her problems.

  3. March 20, 2007 5:46 pm

    Part of what Cameron loves about her time with Oliver is the “home” she has created there. The monotony. The repetition of the same lunch every day. She has created a “home” even though she still believes she can pack up at any instance.

    She is the ultimate army brat, isn’t she? She has tried to convince herself that she wants NO attachments but obviously that is what she truly needs (and craves).

    She is so repressed as a human being….until she finallly lets it all out on the swing…, she is on her way to being whole. Certainly, there is freedom in no attachments but having everything in your car may provide for a bit of je ne sais quoi!, but in the long run, it is one lonely, bitter and sad existence for her. She has just been trying to convince herself and everyone around her that THAT is who she is, when in fact, she needs people just like everyone else.

    I agree with StarSpry, Cameron runs from her problems and tries to call it “freedom” but the baggage has piled up on her.

  4. March 20, 2007 7:53 pm

    I misread that statement in the book at first thinking she said to be free (as in traveling out and about) is a blessing and a curse, but now I realize she actually said the word “freedom,” which actually changes the meaning in my mind. Freedom can only be a curse if you enjoy being enclosed and dependent on another person. Freedom is such a loaded word particularly now what with the media & the president throwing it around like a nothing little buzz word. It’s so much more than that.

  5. March 21, 2007 1:29 am

    I think that Cameron is repeatedly surprised by how connected others are/were to her. I think that b/c of her frequent moves & lack of grounding, she felt that her relationships were just as transient.

  6. March 21, 2007 10:40 am

    Just from personal experience I think living in one place your whole life has its baggage. I went to HS in a town with less than 300 people in it. Since I graduated from college I have lived in different countries, different states but everytime I go back to visit everyone knows me, knows what I have been up to… I find it a little creepy.

    ANYWAY this is about the book… I think a big point of the book is that no matter how far you run away from your starting point you still end up running right into your past. I think cameron’s past made her approach problems as situational or locational. Change your situation leave your problem behind. In the end she discovers that is not possible your future is usually connected to your past.

  7. March 22, 2007 8:35 am

    I bet it would feel like freedom when you don’t have to always to deal with the difficulities of interpersonal relationships. However, eventually you figure out that you are missing some of the great things of connecting with people.

    Leaving, or moving away, is how Cameron escapes any uncomfortable or negative situation.

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